You are lovable
even when love doesn't go your way
You are lovable even when love doesn't go your way.
You are lovable because of your human-ness—the things that irritate you, delight you, awaken you, break you.
You are lovable all the time, whether you feel loved or feel loving.
You just are.
That is you: lovable, one-of-a-kind, absolutely irreplaceable.
This is you. Here, in this moment. Reading these words. Letting them filter through your brain's defenses and rebuttals.
An absolutely lovable human being.
And if you've been let down lately, seen a side of yourself you're ashamed of, failed spectacularly, felt abandoned, experienced swimming-through-molasses stuckness, run out of money, embarrassed yourself, made a communication blunder, or had any other kind of yucky moment...
You are still the most lovable you that ever was and ever could be.
You're not the sum of all your worst ideas and mistakes.
You are the one who grows through and beyond all those experiences and more.
There is always hope. There is always room for expansion. There is always more waiting on the other side of uncertainty.
When I ran my retreat this weekend, I told the participants that I was afraid of letting them down. Sometimes I want to be the "perfect" coach who always knows exactly what to do and say and give everyone exactly what they want and need.
And you know what? We did some coaching while we were in a pool and there was a screaming kid nearby.
I was silly and imperfect and available.
I met the moment and the people in it with everything I had in me—without needing to be everything to everyone.
And I unlocked more love, more capacity, more presence.
That's what I want for you.
The love you're looking for. A deep sense of belonging. Sparks of connection. True purpose in each relationship.
Without needing to be a perfect angel who never fucks up or has ugly thoughts.
Being your most powerful self even when your inner 5-year-old is scared shitless and just wants to hide.
Because your power IS your vulnerability, your fear, your "OH FUCK WHAT DO I DO NOW" voice.
It's not needing to pretend anymore.
Having the relationships you want to have without trying to be some non-existent, mystical future version of yourself who transcends actual reality.
You get to cry and scream and grieve and be in pain.
You get to be you AND you get to be lovable!
You get to be human AND you get to be loved!
You get to be complicated AND you get to belong!
So let's work together, one-on-one.
Because if your relationships feel like constant land mines and you're just waiting for the next disaster, I'll help you defuse the bombs.
Because you deserve so much more joy than capitalism, patriarchy, and all the systems of oppression for profit want you to have.
Because you have infinite magic that wants to be heard, seen, and felt... and I'll guide you right to it and show you how to bring it to life.
And a million billion more reasons that it's time to let yourself be 100% lovable and 100% real.
Six months of 1-on-1 coaching is $5k paid in full, or 6 payments of $900. (Bonus: if you pay upfront, you’ll also receive lifetime membership to my upcoming group program!)
Let’s unleash the lovability.
Much love,
Nat (they/them)