You're allowed to feel shitty
and you don't even need a "good" reason.
My parents dismissed EVERYTHING with “it could be worse.”
I grew up feeling like my “bad” emotions were shameful, and rejecting them at every turn.
But guess what?
The thing that sucks in your life right now gets to suck.
Even if it's "tiny" compared to other things that are happening in the world.
Even if it's "superficial" or "you should be over it by now."
You are having a feeling, and telling yourself that you shouldn’t have that feeling doesn't make it go away. It just doubles down and suddenly you're deep in a shame spiral.
You get to be annoyed, desperate, lonely, irritated, devastated, angry, raging, exhausted, disappointed, or just moody AF.
Seriously.
You’re allowed to feel shitty about the Thing that's supposedly "not a big deal."
And then, you can love yourself right through the yuck.
Big feeling ➡️ accepting the feeling ➡️ loving yourself while you're in the feeling.
You are not bad for feeling it, and it is very okay to love yourself even when you're feeling a Thing you don't want to feel.
The part of yourself that's feeling the Thing could use a big hug, a down comforter, and some hot chocolate with tiny marshmallows.
Wanna work through some bleh together and love the shit out of your messy self? Book a 90-minute coaching call with me for just $90. Or just hang out with me for half an hour, completely free.
Much love,
Nat
P.S. I’ve got another list for my selfie project—and you’re invited 💫